:( Catching Up Old Friend Autism Real? | Autism PDD
This aggravates me...but most people do. THat is why I don't have any meaningful friendships outside of the internet... I have aquaintences but no really close friends other than my sister and my husband.
Sorry your friend is riding on a high horse...Maybe you should knock her off???Just a little fall....nothing that will cause permanent damage. lol
Karrie
I don't talk to my friends from high school.....most of those friendships just drifted apart down different paths, one annoys me to no end and another one and her hub are still friends with my ex(they used to do family things with my ex and his gf and Q )....I didn't expect the husbands to stop being good friends but doing family things with him, my son and his gf....Uggghhh
The one that annoys me to no end or used to.....is very condescending about me being a single parent(she thinks that being married makes her life better than mine) and has no clue about what I'm going through with Q...Ugghhhh!
It's hard to realize that your friends from HS aren't the same people they were back then...and not that they are the ones that did all the changing, but once we finish HS we go on to start our own lives and unfortunately the things that made us friends in HS are no longer there. I really don't talk to anyone from HS anymore. For some it's because I just can't tolerate them anymore
Sorry it wasn't what you hoped. But now you know and it will be easier to pass up the next phone conversation so you don't have to go through this again. Hugs.
Is she a scientologist?I went through a similar situation a couple of years ago (reconnecting with a best friend from school). Anyway, we talked on the phone and emailed, caught up, etc. but everytime I tell her what's going on with Zach I give a little back story to explain whatever it is I'm telling her. Invariably, I get "Well, lots of kids do that..." (see rant on myths & stereotypes LOL). Honestly, I've just come to realize that I'm not able to be friends with people who can't understand what we go through or even just empathize. It's kind of sad for me, and lonely, but it's better than continuing to get angry or frustrated.So I was talking for a long time with a dear friend from high school that I have not talked to in almost 2 years! I was very happy to get in touch with her again. But one thing that really bothered me about our conversation is that she said"My mom doesn't think all that ADHD and stuff is real. I don't think it is either. But I just wanted you to know that I think Autism is real."
WTF?
Gee, thanks. I'm glad you think I'm telling the truth. I'm glad you think all that "ADHD stuff" isn't real but Autism is.
So then - I proceeded to tell her about all of DS's issues. Not to be like "poor me" but just so that she understands what life is like with him. So she was like, "Omg that just makes me want to cry. I can't believe it's all that. I didn't know he had to be in special ed & everything".
It was a real awakening to how many people just do not have any clue about what Autism is. The way that she & her parents have lumped it in with "ADHD" - I mean, WOW! She does not have any children and is an only child, so her family isn't really exposed to small children, so maybe that is why she didn't understand it?
I am just so shocked. Like it just made me feel so isolated from her. I don't know, it is frustrating. She was also very condescending to me on the phone. She told me not to bring up my ex anymore because it "made her sick" because she is a lesbian now and she doesn't understand anyone who brings up issues with men. OK fine. If she is a lesbian that's fine, if she doesn't want to hear about my ex then that's fine, but "made her sick"?
She also kept telling me how "She is a different person now" and she doesn't mean to offend me but she has a whole new outlook on life and she thinks I need to do this & this & this. Dude, I haven't even talked to you in 2 years, how can you possibly know what I am like now?
Just a very weird conversation. I think sometimes even your best friends can just become totally different as adults. I was planning on visiting my hometown again & staying with her, but I don't want her to be judging me & acting condescending toward me especially in front of my kids, especially when she has no idea what it is like to be a mother or go through a divorce & everything. It's just weird, I mean just because she is a lesbian means she knows everything about everything now? I honestly don't care if she is a lesbian or who she has in her bedroom, I really don't want to hear about (whether man OR woman) you know what I mean? Being a lesbian shouldn't make you better than everyone else.
OK tY for letting me ventIt's always hard for me to hear someone trying to educate someone who without living it will never really understand it enough to comprehend. Hugs to you for trying.
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